tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448802533825615490.post7790505535495451211..comments2024-01-05T08:23:27.097+05:30Comments on Musings: Of Human Bondageanilkurup59http://www.blogger.com/profile/07961961217418715354noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448802533825615490.post-56203060044163678842012-09-01T20:22:27.910+05:302012-09-01T20:22:27.910+05:30@ Shilpa Garg,
That is a rare happening - I ve he...@ Shilpa Garg,<br /><br />That is a rare happening - I ve heard people go veg and vegan because of the preference of the spouse , but you went the other way!!<br /><br /><br />@ Sujatha,<br /><br />True , it is the dominating factor in us that want the spouse to bend her/his ways to our ways.<br />Love or no love, it is the matter of two distinct individuals is forgotten. When even siblings are different how could to aliens be on common grounds or demand that the other follow suit.anilkurup59https://www.blogger.com/profile/07961961217418715354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448802533825615490.post-16356470296871290842012-09-01T12:39:59.066+05:302012-09-01T12:39:59.066+05:30I think the generation has passed where the women ...I think the generation has passed where the women changed their lifestyle for their husbands, just because it was required. Now, if someone is doing it, it is of her own free will, which is okay. Many men also change to fit the cohesive unit of a marriage better.<br /><br />As long as the change is sustainable it is okay, but then there are deeper states which cannot be changed. And certain traits that should not be changed, just because you decide to share your life with another person should not be the reason you change your individuality.<br /><br />Also a point that I believe in deeply is that if it is love, you just let the other person be, why try and influence a change. The fun is in the differences, after all.sujata senguptahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13101153080266818022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448802533825615490.post-26796014007946515802012-08-30T15:13:29.745+05:302012-08-30T15:13:29.745+05:30So true... many things do change after marriage fo...So true... many things do change after marriage for both and some things never change for example leaving the wet towel on the bed or not being able to find things!!<br /><br />In our case, I have started eating non-veg food coz of hubby! :)Shilpa Garghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11016927627801620377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448802533825615490.post-26224208789196447182012-08-30T13:15:56.926+05:302012-08-30T13:15:56.926+05:30Have you noticed that they even tend to look alike...Have you noticed that they even tend to look alike in many ways :)<br /><br /><br />The characters rub on each other and some get polished while others get jarred! <br /><br />I became more oraganised after marriage since my Hubby is a cleanliness freak... as for Hubby, he has mellowed down from the short tempered individual he was. Either I scared him away :) or he realized that one can face situations with less emotion.<br /><br />Overall it has been good and soon it shall be twenty years...Happy Kittenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14406399936808407736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448802533825615490.post-39240685537371355972012-08-30T11:38:21.947+05:302012-08-30T11:38:21.947+05:30@ PettyWitter
I hope you can give your take on my ...@ PettyWitter<br />I hope you can give your take on my poser?<br /><br />@ NRIGirl,<br /><br />I guess you have a long , long way to go. And you may not recogonise your old self and perhaps he, his.<br /><br />@ Kparthasathi,<br /><br />As Balachandran rightly said, question of survival. <br /><br />@ Kalpana Bindu,<br /><br />I wonder if we will know or notice.May be an outsider can notice.<br /><br />@ rama,<br /><br />Yes indeed we spend more time of our life span with the spouse than with parents. Change as you say happen willingly . Sometimes unwillingly . Again question of survival.<br /><br /><br />@ Balachandran,<br /><br />Priorities are happening for survival sake. Like the cart before the horse or vice versa.<br /><br />@ Meera Sunderajan<br /><br />I can visualise your husbands binge eating and you do enjoy that. This is the difference between a wonderful blend and bondage . Good for you and him.<br /> Don't' know , perhaps without our knowing physical and mental state is altered by the influences and proximity of the spouse.<br />anilkurup59https://www.blogger.com/profile/07961961217418715354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448802533825615490.post-58607741983197913042012-08-30T10:10:02.743+05:302012-08-30T10:10:02.743+05:30It is interesting that we as human beings are cons...It is interesting that we as human beings are constantly changing and evolving. Yes , our upbringing influences considerably but as you say, marriage also has its role. After 17 years of marriage I find I am becoming more like my husband and he like me - for e.g I find it difficult to tolerate fools while he is able to suffer them better than before. Infact it was he who pointed that out to me last week when I was complaining about some idiots in my office. Yes, food habits change a lot when one gets married - even if it is within one's own community since one has to adjust to the other's likes and dislikes in matters of food .Like your friend mine has also become a near vegetarian ( though he does have these binges where he eats a lot of non veg). There is a study that says that couples who have been married for a very long period even begin to physically resemble one another!!!Meera Sundararajanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15584671517551652378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448802533825615490.post-85338271033201066612012-08-30T09:42:42.718+05:302012-08-30T09:42:42.718+05:30It is all about priorities - of survival!!It is all about priorities - of survival!!Balachandran Vhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10174364716507089780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448802533825615490.post-23724333838636224292012-08-29T15:42:37.806+05:302012-08-29T15:42:37.806+05:30You are right, couples do have a way of influencin...You are right, couples do have a way of influencing and being influenced by each other.<br />We might have picked up certain traits from our parents, but we are also prone to change willingly, most of the times, for maybe we like certain traits in our spouse, and are willing to adopt that in our lives. Similarly they too might have been different, but have changed willingly being with the person they have married. It is a natural thing to happen in all good relationships.<br />Remember we have spent more years with our partners than our parents.<br />Of course, sadly there are couples who have to change themselves forcibly, for they have no other option, for one of them is too dominating to change, so for the peace to superficially reign one person, usually the weaker ones are the ones to given in.<br />Rama Ananthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00962222316822524699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448802533825615490.post-84259864291689853512012-08-29T13:55:43.653+05:302012-08-29T13:55:43.653+05:30Yes Anil you are right I am yet to experience that...Yes Anil you are right I am yet to experience that still I have seen my parents especially my father changing from a completely dominating person into a fun loving open-hearted man, similarly my brother. It does make a difference but there are exceptions as well with people changing but then again going back to their idiosyncrasies.... Kalpana Binduhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03776991616949704994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448802533825615490.post-43700283594293872322012-08-29T06:57:58.168+05:302012-08-29T06:57:58.168+05:30Yes spouses are influenced by each other in varyin...Yes spouses are influenced by each other in varying degrees.I have known a chain smoker took to pan masala after the wedding and another taking a walk to street corner to have a fag and conceal it by munching 'Asoka'betel nuts.Men have remobved mustaches to please their wives but I have also noticed that some men could never be changed from their disorderliness is keeping things and their clumsy ways.On the whole marriage mellows men except alcoholics in the lower strata or wicked men and women by their spouses.KParthasarathihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02189924874350906456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448802533825615490.post-80783253506346435192012-08-29T03:53:08.941+05:302012-08-29T03:53:08.941+05:30Very true @Anil: we are so influenced by our spous...Very true @Anil: we are so influenced by our spouses. I can see that clearly in our wedded bliss of 13 years. We have come a long way from where we began to where we are! It is scary we even complete each other's sentences!NRIGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02709704269988589729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448802533825615490.post-18228634842719325602012-08-28T17:39:16.347+05:302012-08-28T17:39:16.347+05:30Having known several such brats I found some of th...Having known several such brats I found some of the questions you posed interesting in the extreme, your wondering if women are far more influenced or forced to adhere to changed ways and habits to suit the fantasies, fallacies and habits of their spouses totally thought provoking.Felicity Grace Terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17852843882007267665noreply@blogger.com